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I'm on ff.net as Once Upon a Femmeslash.

I’m Henry. He/him/his pronouns. FAAB trans boy (pre-everything), part Choctaw but white-passing, eighteen years old, sexuality a big ball of wibbly wobbly.

Send me fanfic prompts if you want, but I can't promise the fanfic will be prompt.

If I hit post limit I may be over on whoinvitedqueenqueen.tumblr.com

The above picture is of my dog, Little Bit, with me in the background.

Ughhh I realm want to get this done before I forget to to it over the weekend, but also I really just want to, I dunno, internet instead. Ughhhhh #college #homework #mandarin

Ughhh I realm want to get this done before I forget to to it over the weekend, but also I really just want to, I dunno, internet instead. Ughhhhh #college #homework #mandarin

My hair is doing… something. Idk if I like it. It’s like… an ocean wave on top of my head? 
#bluehairdontcare #selfie #bluehair #turquoisehair #boy #inthelibrarybasementwithbooksinfrontofmetakingselfies #college

My hair is doing… something. Idk if I like it. It’s like… an ocean wave on top of my head? #bluehairdontcare #selfie #bluehair #turquoisehair #boy #inthelibrarybasementwithbooksinfrontofmetakingselfies #college

depressednmoderatelywelldressed:

thebluelip-blondie:

thatdudeemu:

jcoleknowsbest:

likehercoffee:

theblacksophisticate:

I am SO goddamned tired of this shit. 

damn, they won’t let up. we can’t run and we can’t surrender. what do they expect us to do? they killed this woman over what some merchandise? you let out on some garments what twisted universe do you gotta come from when a overtime punching rent-a-cop even bothers to chase and then pull a gun? smh rip because there is nothing but war on this side of the final curtain.

I cannot.. I can’t….

trillaryclinton thehomiejazz
y’all hear about this?!?!?

What the fuck

Remember all the famous white girls that were caught shopliting and not shot and killed? Remember when white tumblr went and did life hacks for shopliftin because it was “sticking it to the man” in their upper middle class world where they read one post about Marxism and liked a picture of a sweatshop in china one time

This mother was killed without a second thought its not about shopliftit its about killing black people, its genocide on our people

madamqueenregina:

Ever doodled in class when you were suppose to be paying attention? Yeah, me too. And apparently, Lana has too, except the classroom is a set and the lesson is the scene.

These are Lana Parrilla’s doodles from episode 1x11, "Fruit of a Poisonous Tree”,(found here)in the Town Hall Meeting scene where she is accused of taking money from the town to build herself a nice little mansion in the woods. So now when you decide to rewatch season 1, and you get to episode 11, and Lana is writing or you just happen to notice the notepad sitting in front of her, you’ll know what she was really doing.

Yep, Lana would make a great mayor. :)

thattranblog:

sawyerthegenderqueer:

thattranblog:

foxsun:

sawyerthegenderqueer:

mahou—ouji:

sawyerthegenderqueer:

To rudetruscum, and any other truscum who try to tell me that I am inherently “less-than” because of my femininity or identity: You say that I have a “special snowflake” syndrome, but look at yourself. You are so bound and determined to be unique, to be “the right kind of trans”, that you reject anything outside of the norm. Let me point something out to you. Trans people have been pushed aside by society. Cisgender people have brushed trans people under the rug, denied trans people rights and safety in society. Cis people have continuously condescended trans people; “You’re just a tomboy.” “You don’t know what you really want.” “But you’re really a girl/boy.” I imagine you hate that. I imagine it has made your life a living hell. This is what I’m pointing out to you: You. Are. Doing. The. Same. Thing. To. Nonbinary. People. I wear dresses and flower crowns, because I understand that being male doesn’t mean I have to sag my pants and wear backwards hats and become a misogynist. Transitioning from female to male doesn’t have to mean transitioning from traditionally feminine behaviour and presentation to traditionally male behaviour and presentation. I do not fit neatly in a pink or blue box- nobody does. Not even trans people such as yourselves. Most of my life was spent being informed, “Ladies don’t say/do that.” I was forced into acting like somebody I am not because cis people couldn’t handle the idea of a female behaving or dressing like a male, and I will be DAMNED if trans people- who are supposed to be my community- try to do the same because I am a male who enjoys traditionally feminine things. Tl;dr: go fuck yourselves.

I’m the most feminine trans boy you’ll ever meet. Let me say something.I have to either not care about being misgendered by society or I have to dress more masculine. That’s not a choice we can ignore. If we want to be taken seriously, aka get access to hormones, surgery, have our family members call us by the correct name/pronouns, etc, we have to bite the bullet and dress a little more masculine. That’s our unfortunate truth. I don’t know what it’s like in your daily life. How your parents are. What your school is like. But I do know one thing.We have to pass.

I reject that out of hand. Even if my home was a safe place for me as a trans person (it isn’t), I refuse to be forced to behave and act in any way that doesn’t reflect who I am; if I was okay with that I would remain in the closet.

I am also feminine, and I’d like to pitch in some thoughts as a trans man. Fair warning, this is going to be lengthy. 
I don’t “have” to pass. Passing is, at times, overrated. I happen to have been taking testosterone for nearly one year, which means in order for strangers to view me as a man, I don’t have to make any special efforts. 
It wasn’t always this way for me, though. No matter how masculine I dressed and acted, before hrt, I was often assumed to be a girl by those who did not know me. I accepted that, and hoped for my future to hold a different experience—one where I could be seen as my gender despite how I presented. After all, presentation isn’t the foundation of gender. 
Of course, there are exceptions to this whole “trying to pass” thing, such as wearing a binder and sometimes packing. But I do not consider those things as attempts to be seen as a man so much as attempts to lessen my dysphoric responses to living in my body. 
I know there are people who are absolutely devastated and it’s a major hit to their dysphoria if they are misgendered in public while putting so much effort into presenting as a typical member of their gender. I can think of a few times where I felt pretty low as a result of my gender being neglected by others like that. Sometimes, there is no solution to be seen as a man by others without enduring medical transitioning. Because even if people around you don’t agree with your gender identity, they realize that there are feminine looking men and masculine looking women. So, being coded as a masculine woman is not the fault of the trans man who’s trying so hard to pass.
The whole “I need to pass” attitude is not always healthy since there are times when you will not pass, and it’s not your fault. It’s self destructive to take on reactions to your presentation by others as a responsibility of your own. It’s not all controllable. You won’t always be taken seriously, no matter how seriously you present yourself. That’s reality. 
If a feminine trans man presents in a feminine way pre-hrt, that does not mean they do not take their gender or their presentation seriously. That does not mean that they do not wish their gender could be acknowledged by others, be it strangers or family and friends. Even doctors. You don’t have to participate in the typical presentation for a member of your gender in order to be taken seriously by medical professionals. If you didn’t know that, then now you know.
It totally depends on the person when you visit a psychiatrist or an endocrinologist to access medical transition. There are times when trans people have to put on a presentation that they don’t feel suits them in order to attend those appointments because the person they’re meeting with does not have an open mind. I understand that that happens. But it doesn’t mean that, as a trans man, who is pre everything and doesn’t even know who their doctors will be, you have to get into a mental state where “passing” is the most vital thing to continue transitioning. Yeah, it sucks if you have to lie about a few things in order to access hormones (and I say a few, because something as big as having 0 sex dysphoria then getting surgery is a huge risk), but please know that there are options. Informed consent clinics. Driving an extra two hours to see a different medical professional. Or maybe just explaining that presenting in a feminine manner is not tied to your gender, because being a man is not about the way you look, and that you need to transition medically in order to rid yourself of sex dysphoria, which is a totally different thing because it’s parts and not clothes. Reasoning can get you somewhere.
As for my thoughts, while being a “passing” trans man, that passing is overrated? Simple. I know cisgender men who do not always “pass” as male in public because of their feminine/androgynous ways of presenting themselves. If you’re a trans man (or even non binary) and aim to be seen as a guy in public, while also wanting hrt, but then again also wanting long hair? You have the chance of ending up like those guys I was talking about. You could be referred to as “she” when people see the back of your head, but as soon as you turn around, they’d fumble to correct themselves and say he. It happens. I’m at a point in my life where being misgendered isn’t a thing that involves my being transgender, it’s just a thing. And one day, if I’m comfortable enough with my body to wear skirts again (another one of those times where I like them but hold off because of my personal dysphoria (but there are trans guys who deal with their dysphoria differently and are able to wear them no problem)), then I could be misgendered even more. But it would be no different for me than a cisgender guy in a skirt being misgendered. Passing isn’t everything. Passing doesn’t guarantee medical transition or being comfortable in your body or presentation. For some, it might. But not always.
TL;DR: The “we” in mahou—ouiji’s “we have to pass” rubbed me the wrong way. 

[to OP]
Someone touched on this earlier, but if you’re a trans guy (or non-binary but on the masculine side of the spectrum) and you wear “women’s” clothes, which are designed to emphasize “womanly” features (ie, breasts or hips or thighs or waist), but this doesn’t trigger dysphoria… I raise my eyebrow.
Now, I’m not saying that all clothes typically assigned to the opposite gender would do this or that everyone would/should be effected equally. Heck, I can see myself “cross-dressing” to some extent in the future. And it’s not even 100% a pacing issue because I almost never passed pre-T and I still don’t always pass now.
But I will say that before top surgery (which I just got yay!) I would always bind. And it wasn’t to pass. It was for myself, because it helped me feel more comfortable, because it helped me manage my dysphoria. I don’t think I could handle wearing a bra again.
So while you can dress and present however the fuck you want, what this suggests about your dysphoria is far more telling.

Dude, fuck off. I couldn’t care less about what you think of how I present or whether I’m trans enough for you.

Reading through the other replies to this, I’m going to assume that you are dysphoric. Present however the fuck you want. I also want to say that I’m so sorry to hear about the bullying and transphobia you have to deal with. That’s never okay, regardless of anyone’s trans status. I hope things better for you.

thattranblog:

sawyerthegenderqueer:

thattranblog:

foxsun:

sawyerthegenderqueer:

mahou—ouji:

sawyerthegenderqueer:

To rudetruscum, and any other truscum who try to tell me that I am inherently “less-than” because of my femininity or identity:
You say that I have a “special snowflake” syndrome, but look at yourself. You are so bound and determined to be unique, to be “the right kind of trans”, that you reject anything outside of the norm.
Let me point something out to you.
Trans people have been pushed aside by society. Cisgender people have brushed trans people under the rug, denied trans people rights and safety in society. Cis people have continuously condescended trans people; “You’re just a tomboy.” “You don’t know what you really want.” “But you’re really a girl/boy.”
I imagine you hate that.
I imagine it has made your life a living hell.
This is what I’m pointing out to you:
You. Are. Doing. The. Same. Thing. To. Nonbinary. People.
I wear dresses and flower crowns, because I understand that being male doesn’t mean I have to sag my pants and wear backwards hats and become a misogynist. Transitioning from female to male doesn’t have to mean transitioning from traditionally feminine behaviour and presentation to traditionally male behaviour and presentation. I do not fit neatly in a pink or blue box- nobody does. Not even trans people such as yourselves.
Most of my life was spent being informed, “Ladies don’t say/do that.” I was forced into acting like somebody I am not because cis people couldn’t handle the idea of a female behaving or dressing like a male, and I will be DAMNED if trans people- who are supposed to be my community- try to do the same because I am a male who enjoys traditionally feminine things.
Tl;dr: go fuck yourselves.

I’m the most feminine trans boy you’ll ever meet. Let me say something.
I have to either not care about being misgendered by society or I have to dress more masculine.
That’s not a choice we can ignore. If we want to be taken seriously, aka get access to hormones, surgery, have our family members call us by the correct name/pronouns, etc, we have to bite the bullet and dress a little more masculine. That’s our unfortunate truth.
I don’t know what it’s like in your daily life. How your parents are. What your school is like. But I do know one thing.
We have to pass.

I reject that out of hand. Even if my home was a safe place for me as a trans person (it isn’t), I refuse to be forced to behave and act in any way that doesn’t reflect who I am; if I was okay with that I would remain in the closet.

I am also feminine, and I’d like to pitch in some thoughts as a trans man. Fair warning, this is going to be lengthy. 

I don’t “have” to pass. Passing is, at times, overrated. I happen to have been taking testosterone for nearly one year, which means in order for strangers to view me as a man, I don’t have to make any special efforts. 

It wasn’t always this way for me, though. No matter how masculine I dressed and acted, before hrt, I was often assumed to be a girl by those who did not know me. I accepted that, and hoped for my future to hold a different experience—one where I could be seen as my gender despite how I presented. After all, presentation isn’t the foundation of gender. 

Of course, there are exceptions to this whole “trying to pass” thing, such as wearing a binder and sometimes packing. But I do not consider those things as attempts to be seen as a man so much as attempts to lessen my dysphoric responses to living in my body. 

I know there are people who are absolutely devastated and it’s a major hit to their dysphoria if they are misgendered in public while putting so much effort into presenting as a typical member of their gender. I can think of a few times where I felt pretty low as a result of my gender being neglected by others like that. Sometimes, there is no solution to be seen as a man by others without enduring medical transitioning. Because even if people around you don’t agree with your gender identity, they realize that there are feminine looking men and masculine looking women. So, being coded as a masculine woman is not the fault of the trans man who’s trying so hard to pass.

The whole “I need to pass” attitude is not always healthy since there are times when you will not pass, and it’s not your fault. It’s self destructive to take on reactions to your presentation by others as a responsibility of your own. It’s not all controllable. You won’t always be taken seriously, no matter how seriously you present yourself. That’s reality. 

If a feminine trans man presents in a feminine way pre-hrt, that does not mean they do not take their gender or their presentation seriously. That does not mean that they do not wish their gender could be acknowledged by others, be it strangers or family and friends. Even doctors. You don’t have to participate in the typical presentation for a member of your gender in order to be taken seriously by medical professionals. If you didn’t know that, then now you know.

It totally depends on the person when you visit a psychiatrist or an endocrinologist to access medical transition. There are times when trans people have to put on a presentation that they don’t feel suits them in order to attend those appointments because the person they’re meeting with does not have an open mind. I understand that that happens. But it doesn’t mean that, as a trans man, who is pre everything and doesn’t even know who their doctors will be, you have to get into a mental state where “passing” is the most vital thing to continue transitioning. Yeah, it sucks if you have to lie about a few things in order to access hormones (and I say a few, because something as big as having 0 sex dysphoria then getting surgery is a huge risk), but please know that there are options. Informed consent clinics. Driving an extra two hours to see a different medical professional. Or maybe just explaining that presenting in a feminine manner is not tied to your gender, because being a man is not about the way you look, and that you need to transition medically in order to rid yourself of sex dysphoria, which is a totally different thing because it’s parts and not clothes. Reasoning can get you somewhere.

As for my thoughts, while being a “passing” trans man, that passing is overrated? Simple. I know cisgender men who do not always “pass” as male in public because of their feminine/androgynous ways of presenting themselves. If you’re a trans man (or even non binary) and aim to be seen as a guy in public, while also wanting hrt, but then again also wanting long hair? You have the chance of ending up like those guys I was talking about. You could be referred to as “she” when people see the back of your head, but as soon as you turn around, they’d fumble to correct themselves and say he. It happens. I’m at a point in my life where being misgendered isn’t a thing that involves my being transgender, it’s just a thing. And one day, if I’m comfortable enough with my body to wear skirts again (another one of those times where I like them but hold off because of my personal dysphoria (but there are trans guys who deal with their dysphoria differently and are able to wear them no problem)), then I could be misgendered even more. But it would be no different for me than a cisgender guy in a skirt being misgendered. Passing isn’t everything. Passing doesn’t guarantee medical transition or being comfortable in your body or presentation. For some, it might. But not always.

TL;DR: The “we” in mahou—ouiji’s “we have to pass” rubbed me the wrong way. 

[to OP]

Someone touched on this earlier, but if you’re a trans guy (or non-binary but on the masculine side of the spectrum) and you wear “women’s” clothes, which are designed to emphasize “womanly” features (ie, breasts or hips or thighs or waist), but this doesn’t trigger dysphoria… I raise my eyebrow.

Now, I’m not saying that all clothes typically assigned to the opposite gender would do this or that everyone would/should be effected equally. Heck, I can see myself “cross-dressing” to some extent in the future. And it’s not even 100% a pacing issue because I almost never passed pre-T and I still don’t always pass now.

But I will say that before top surgery (which I just got yay!) I would always bind. And it wasn’t to pass. It was for myself, because it helped me feel more comfortable, because it helped me manage my dysphoria. I don’t think I could handle wearing a bra again.

So while you can dress and present however the fuck you want, what this suggests about your dysphoria is far more telling.

Dude, fuck off. I couldn’t care less about what you think of how I present or whether I’m trans enough for you.

Reading through the other replies to this, I’m going to assume that you are dysphoric. Present however the fuck you want. I also want to say that I’m so sorry to hear about the bullying and transphobia you have to deal with. That’s never okay, regardless of anyone’s trans status. I hope things better for you.

politicallyincorrectwalrus:

i love the term “partners”
are we dating?
are we robbing a bank?
do we run a legal firm?
are we the dedicated detectives who investigate these vicious felonies and are members of an elite squad known as the special victims unit?
who knows.

themouseabides:

Knowledge is knowing that Frankenstein is not the monster.

Wisdom is knowing that Frankenstein is the monster.

rtamerica:

Black TV producer on way to Emmys party mistaken for bank robber, handcuffed, held for six hours
An African-American film producer in Beverly Hills for an Emmy pre-party was handcuffed and detained for around six hours on Friday night as police believed he fit the description of a suspect in a nearby bank robbery.
Charles Belk said he left a restaurant alone to refill a parking meter when he was suddenly surrounded by six police cars “handcuffed very tightly, fully searched for weapons, and placed back on the curb,”  he wrote on his Facebook page with an accompanying photo of him sitting on the curb as two police officers stand close by. 

rtamerica:

Black TV producer on way to Emmys party mistaken for bank robber, handcuffed, held for six hours

An African-American film producer in Beverly Hills for an Emmy pre-party was handcuffed and detained for around six hours on Friday night as police believed he fit the description of a suspect in a nearby bank robbery.

Charles Belk said he left a restaurant alone to refill a parking meter when he was suddenly surrounded by six police cars “handcuffed very tightly, fully searched for weapons, and placed back on the curb,” he wrote on his Facebook page with an accompanying photo of him sitting on the curb as two police officers stand close by. 

shutupmerlin:

I saw someone fly backwards off a treadmill today and I was laughing so hard I fell off the crosstrainer which made the girl next to me laugh so hard that she slipped off hers and it was 7:30 in the morning and there were just 3 of us sitting on the floor of the gym crying with laughter and in varying degrees of pain 

weloveinterracial:

They came to the protest handcuffed to each other. “If he’s going down, I’m going down 

littlereddove:

theanti90smovement:

very small dog? puppy

very big dog? puppy

very young dog? puppy

very old dog? puppy

puppy? puppy

Fierce hungry looking Wolf? puppy

peachmagic:

support bi women in relationships with men. support bi women in relationships with nb ppl. support bi women in relationships with other women. support bi women no matter their partners.

fandomsandfeminism:

yo-maru:

fandomsandfeminism:

Not when you are laying around the house, not when you go to the grocery store, not when you sit in a classroom, not when you go to the gym. You are never obligated to get dressed up just so you are pretty for others.

Pretty is not the rent you pay to exist in the world as a woman. 

I didn’t know this was exclusive to women

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